Dating after divorce in your forties
Thinking about dating again after divorce? How to tell if you're ready, what to sort out first, and why your will needs a look.
Read the guideDating in your forties
Single in your forties and ready to meet someone
Practical ideas for dating around work, children and a full diary. Plus people your own age who get it.
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Ideas our editors checked this month, with the source for each.
Dating with children at home
Fitting dates around school runs and custody weekends. How to protect your children's privacy, and when to tell them you're seeing someone.
Read the guideTalking about wanting children, or not
When to raise whether you want children with someone you're dating in your forties, with honest facts on age and fertility.
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Where singles meet here
- parkrunparkrun is a free, weekly 5km timed run on Saturday mornings, usually at 9am. Register first, then stay for the coffee afterwards, where most of the chatting happens.
- A local running groupEngland Athletics' RunTogether groups range from beginner groups that mix walking and running to groups for experienced runners. Search by postcode for one near you.
- Gallery and museum latesEvening openings draw a relaxed, grown-up crowd and make it easy to strike up a conversation. The V&A's free Friday Late runs on the last Friday of most months.
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- February: A Valentine's week showMatthew Bourne's touring Cinderella is at Birmingham Hippodrome from 9 to 13 February 2027. A good pick if you'd rather skip the set-menu dinner.
- May to June: Brighton FringeBrighton Fringe 2027 runs from 7 May to 6 June, with comedy, theatre and music across the city. Easy group plans for a casual second date.
- July: Bristol Harbour FestivalMusic, circus and on-the-water shows along the harbourside, often in the school holidays when children may be away. The 2026 festival ran from 17 to 19 July; 2027 dates are still to be announced.
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Is it harder to date in your forties?
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Where do people over 40 meet partners?
Online, through friends, and at things like parkrun, running groups, classes and gallery lates.