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Dates, friends and relationships for lesbian, bi and queer women. Plus ideas for meeting people online and out in your area.
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LondonA free afternoon at Queer Britain, then coffee at Coal Drops Yard.BrightonSpend a September afternoon at Brighton Dyke Pride in Hove.ManchesterLearn a few steps together at a beginner-friendly Dance OUT class.BristolTry a Pride ceilidh or comedy night during Bristol's Pride fortnight.San FranciscoJoin the Dyke March on the Saturday of Pride weekend.New York CityGo to a Lesbian Visibility Week event at The Center in April.
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Where singles meet here
- Join an LGBTQ+ swim clubOut To Swim welcomes LGBTQIA+ adults of every level, with clubs in Brighton & Hove, London, Bristol, Newcastle and Bournemouth & Poole. New members can try a free taster session.
- Find a women's group at your LGBT centreIn Greater Manchester, the LGBT Foundation runs a Women's Programme for lesbian, gay, bi and trans women. Many cities have similar groups, so ask at your local LGBT centre.
- Sing in an LGBTQ+ choirLondon has several LGBTQ+ choirs, from the no-audition Many Voices to the Pink Singers and Diversity Choir. Rehearsals each week make it easy to get to know people.
What’s on
Coming up
- Late April: Lesbian Visibility WeekLesbian Visibility Week is held each year in late April, with events in the UK and US. Talks and socials make a good first date.
- June and July: Pride seasonPride season brings two weeks of events in Bristol, from ceilidhs to comedy nights. Smaller events are relaxed and good for meeting friends too.
- September: Brighton Dyke PrideA free, community-run day in St Ann's Well Gardens, Hove, with a queer market, music and workshops. A friendly crowd and a relaxed feel.
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In shortJust Lesbian Singles is a dating site for lesbian, bi and queer women in the UK and US who want to date women. Every photo is checked by a person, and members who pass an ID check get a Verified badge. Joining and browsing are free.
Is it free?
Joining, making a profile and browsing are free. To read and reply to messages you need a membership. You'll see the options before you pay anything.
How do I know people are real?
Every photo is checked by a person. Members who pass an ID check carry a Verified badge, so you can see who has been checked.
Is Just Lesbian Singles open to bi and queer women?
Yes. Lesbian, bi and queer women who want to date women are all welcome.
Where can lesbians meet outside bars?
Try a swim club, a choir, a walking group or a dance class. Community events like Lesbian Visibility Week and Dyke Pride are great too.