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Starting to date men after coming out in your thirties, forties or later. Practical, friendly ideas to help you take your first steps.
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Dates, friendship and relationships for gay and bi men across the UK and US. Plus ideas for meeting off-screen too.
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Where our members are
LondonWander Queer Britain in King's Cross, then a drink at Coal Drops Yard.ManchesterPlan a late-summer date around Pride in the Gay Village.BrightonA seafront walk, then the Pride parade if it's summer.GlasgowMarch together at Glasgow's Pride in July.New York CityTry a queer tango lesson at The Center in the West Village.San FranciscoVisit the GLBT Historical Society Museum in the Castro.
Guides
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Ideas our editors checked this month, with the source for each.
Meeting gay men beyond the bar scene
Where gay and bi men meet outside bars and clubs: walking groups, choirs, LGBT centres and more. Real ideas for the UK and US.
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Where singles meet here
- Walk with OutdoorLadsOutdoorLads runs walks, cycling, climbing and weekends away for gay, bi and trans men across Britain. Beginners are welcome, and registration is free.
- Join a gay men's chorusThe London Gay Men's Chorus welcomes men whatever their experience, and you don't need to read music. There's a waiting list for some voice parts, and non-singing members can join straight away.
- Swim with an LGBTQ+ clubOut To Swim welcomes LGBTQ+ swimmers of every level in London, Brighton & Hove, Bristol, Newcastle and Bournemouth & Poole. New members get a free trial session.
What’s on
Coming up
- February: LGBT+ History MonthLGBT+ History Month runs through February in the UK, with talks and events across the country. A talk or exhibition makes a thoughtful date.
- Summer: Pride seasonPride runs through the summer, from Glasgow in July to Brighton in early August. Watching a parade together is an easy group date.
- 1 December: World AIDS DayWorld AIDS Day brings people together to support those living with HIV and remember those who have died. Wearing a red ribbon or going to a local event together can mean a lot.
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How we keep Just Gay Singles real
Every member’s photo is checked by a person before anyone sees it.
Verified1A person checks every photo
Before any profile goes live, a member of our team looks at the photos. Anything that looks borrowed, edited or fake doesn’t get through.
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3An ID check for the Verified badge
Members can check their ID with Yoti in about a minute. Yoti checks the document and tells us it matched. We never see or keep the document.
4Reports read by people
Report a profile and someone on our team reviews it. Fake profiles are removed.
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Questions people ask
In shortJust Gay Singles is a dating site for gay and bi men in the UK and US who want real dates and relationships. Every photo is checked by a person, and members who pass an ID check get a Verified badge. Joining and browsing are free.
Is it free?
Joining, making a profile and browsing are free. To read and reply to messages you need a membership. You'll see the options before you pay anything.
How do I know people are real?
Every photo is checked by a person. Members who pass an ID check carry a Verified badge, so you can see who has been checked.
Is Just Gay Singles for relationships or casual dating?
It's for men who want real dates and relationships. Members are looking for different things, so be clear about what you want.
Are bi men welcome?
Yes. Gay and bi men are both very welcome here.